dONDI- You must not know any gay, lesbian or transgendered folk because they are just like everyone else, they have families, jobs, hopes, dreams, charge accounts, debts, etc. etc. There are many, many very happy gays in long term relationships who are doing just fine. God cares alot more about us loving our neighbors than He/she does about whom we sleep with.
The tragedy of BM was the fact they both felt they HAD to marry women to "appear" right with the culture when the best thing for them would have been to be with each other without the guilt perpetrated by the church. The guilt and shame is the regretful thing, not being gay.
And by the way, do you really think a loving God would establish an eternal torture chamber for those who do not speak your magic words??